Why J.Lo Can’t Find Love

Jennifer Lopez, though certainly a sweetheart, is pretty unlucky at love. After longtime media speculation, she split from hubby Marc Anthony. That’s her third husband, in case you’re not counting, and she’s had other ill-fated high-profile relationships in addition to her nuptial faux pas (most notably with Sean Combs and Ben Affleck). So why can’t she seem to make it work? According to her longtime manager, business partner, and godfather of her twins, Benny Medina, the key is obsession.

“The thing that I always sort of wished is that she would give herself time to just naturally meet someone, instead of having nearly obsessive guys pursue her,” says Medina, who added that he considers Lopez a serial monogamist. “The ease with which that obsession becomes a relationship I think sometimes works against her ability to have a real meaningful relationship.”

Lopez is now dating her much-younger backup dancer Casper Smart, and is apparently fully aware of what she is doing regarding the relationship. According to Medina, Lopez is “not oblivious to her own reality right now, as in, Damn, I’m 42 with a 24-year-old. Why? We talked about it yesterday. She was just like, ‘It’s not even the age, Benny. It’s actually that I just came out of a relationship where I felt like I was kind of not getting what I needed. And I’m open! So somebody who steps in right now and is actually touching me in a way—it’s very fertile ground!'”

Lopez and ex Marc Anthony are reportedly still best friends forever.

Do you think J.Lo will ever find true love?